Why do people feel like they can talk about my boobs???
I am overweight. Actually, I am clinically obese, but whatever. I had large breasts before I began to gain weight and now they are out of control. What kills me is that people think that it is ok to talk about them. People think that having large breasts is a positive, so they can comment on them all that they want.
I have one girlfriend who weighs 110 soaking wet, and eats like there’s no tomorrow. She is also flat chested. She thinks that all of her self-esteem issues would go away if only she had boobs. She tells me how lucky I am to have big boobs; that the big boobs balance out the rest of me so that I look proportionate. She chatters away about having a boob job constantly. I’d be happy to donate tissue if I could.
I have another group of friends that we get together with once or twice a year. This past New Year’s Eve, I made the mistake of wearing a shirt that was low-cut. I thought I looked nice (and then the pictures started to show up Yikes!) But the whole night, this one male friend of ours kept telling me that he couldn’t stop staring at my boobs. Like it was supposed to be a compliment.
Why does society hold ginourmous boobs in such high regard? They get in the way. I have to wear two bras when I jog. The other day, my husband and I were out hitting golf balls. He was critiquing my swing, and then stopped, and had this aha! moment. “Oh, your boobs get in the way.” I can’t wear shirts that button down the front. Those cute shirts that have the empire-waist that is supposed to fit under your boobs…for me the waist pretty much runs across the nipples. I sleep in a bra. I live in a bra.
I told my husband that I want to have a breast reduction. But I know that they aren’t big enough to warrant that. And, of I actually lost some weight, they’d probably be tolerable. So, here I am, back to solving my problems by actually sticking to a weight loss plan.
It would be so much easier if I could just complain my weight away! 
On a positive note, I dragged my sorry butt out of bed again this morning and did my 2.8 miles. Today, I alternated walking and jogging in 5-minute intervals. I am glad I did it, although I am SLEEPY right now!
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I suppose people think you are supposed to be flattered by their mindless comments since our culture is so obsessed with breasts. When I was at goal weight, I wore a smaller bra size, so as you lose weight, your chest should get smaller too. Really, when guys like that make dumb comments like he did, I would just ask him why he thinks it’s okay to say that to you.
I don’t think people “think” before they speak, but if they did they wouldn’t say some of the mindless jabber that comes out of their mouths. Men are obsessed, and some women too - with having or getting large breasts. I gained a “little” weight to get some - now I’m sorry I did because I gained way to much - got the boobs but also everything else that came with them. Now I want them out of here. Best of luck on your plan. I know you can do it!
Lets get em - I get this too hon, since the age of 15 i have had what could be termed a “great rack”
(am currently a 34E - even when slim am a 34D/DD - maybe not this time though - could be that they will head south forever when I lose this weight!)
Several of my previous boyfriends knew my bra size but not the colour of my eyes!! FYI THEY ARE BLUE YOU JERK-OFFS!!!
Feel much calmer now
Shelli X
I blame the media. hehe… Really, I agree with you. It’s disgusting the way people drool over boobs. They do get in the way, make clothes not fit properly, and are generaly a pain in the butt… my first thought about the guy commenting on them was to make an equally disgusting comment about his package… that must be the child in me though
Mature me says ignore them. Good job on the jog/walk!
I have to wear two bras when I jog too! Everyone comments on my boobs too! I’m 5 feet tall, size 14 and my boobs are disproportionately large for my body!
I know exactly how you feel! I go through the same things. Can’t wear cute shirts, have to wear a bra 24/7. I hate it! I want a breast reduction too, and I decided that if I get my weight off and they are still huge, I will do it! Keep up the good work on the weight loss.
My sister works for 8 different plastic surgeons and I’m sure she would tell you that if your boobs are bothering you and you wish they were smaller then get a reduction. There’s no such thing as boobs not being big enough for a reduction it is a personal choice. Just like there’s no such thing as boobs being too big for implants because plenty of women who had C’s or D’s have gotten implants (from psycho, money hungry surgeons but still) You are probably smart to wait and see what they do once you lose some weight but I wouldn’t write off a reduction just yet. Good luck!
I feel ya bout people talking about your boobs. I get comments and cracks on mine all the time. Mine get in the way. I have awful time with trying to find the right bra. Even if I were thinner I don’t think I could wear the cute shirts. i hate trying to find bathing suits, thats impossible. i found one this year that fits me well, but that was after looking and looking and looking. If I could get a reduction I think I would. I am in a 48 DD and it sucks. I am 5′6, even if I were skinny I couldnt’ see my feet because of my boobs. Im hoping they tone down with my working out!
I have like nothing on top! I think I would be an A maybe if I bought a correct fitting bra. With weight loss they got smaller…now they look like “man boobs” but I am no man…
I met a relative I haven’t seen since I was 13 at Wal mart. She saw that I lost a ton of weight (I was overweight then) and she said something like I had nothing up top…
ummm so people talk about people with small breasts too
I’d expect with weight loss you will lose inches in that area…good luck!
Oh geez. I’m in that club with you. The proportional comments and all. I wear a 40DD. I hate it. When I was thinner I was in a C. Maybe I’ll get back there. I say if you want a reduction, go for it!
All of us speak from experience, my boobs tend to be the center of attention anywhere I go. Its crazy and I hate it. Im only a 38dd but im alos only 5′2.
You’re so right, people DO think it’s a compliment! I have somewhat big boobs and have gotten the comments. I rarely wear anything too revealing, but when I do that’s what I really hear it. People are just ignorant! Great job w/ the intervals- I do that too and love it, makes your legs look great too, maybe soon they can start “complimenting” you on that instead =)
I had a reduction at the age of 18 and thought it would fix everything and while I was a LOT happier it doesn’t fix anything. I wanted to be smaller than what he made me which was a C I wanted a B I was afraid they would get bigger and yup they did when I gained weight. They have gotten smaller since I’ve lost weight so I have no doubt yours will too. I wear 2 jog bra’s when i workout too I think a lot of people do although I refuse to wear one to bed!
As for your friend she wouldn’t be happier she only thinks she would.
oh it ate my 2nd comment check your folder…
Well done on the jogging!!
I totally know what you mean about the boobs issue. Mine are 40dd, my friend thinks they are amazing, and just looking at them without the rest of me then yes they are. but they balance me out. i dont want them to be that big. i want to be slim with boobs to suit my frame. i really dont care if they are big or small. in the hot weather they get all hot and sweaty and i find them unbearable!! and i wish they were more pert. hopefully with time and weight loss they will re-pert themselves! xx
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